Highly sensitive people (HSPs) are more prone to heightened emotional reactions, intense empathy, and deep processing of sensory information. They are more susceptible to feeling overwhelmed in situations where others might not be, and they can quickly become emotionally drained. HSPs are 15 to 20% of the population and can be found in both men and women. 

While being compassionate has advantages, such as being more intuitive and empathetic, it can also come with challenges. One of these challenges is emotional regulation. HSPs can become easily overwhelmed by their emotions and find managing them challenging. Let us discuss the tips for emotional regulation in highly-sensitive people.

1. Accept Feelings

One of the most essential things that HSPs can do to regulate their emotions is to accept their feelings. It means acknowledging and allowing themselves to feel their emotions without judgment or criticism. Recognizing that all feelings are valid and serve a purpose is essential.

Suppressing emotions can lead to emotional distress, manifesting in physical symptoms such as headaches, stomach aches, and fatigue. Acknowledging feelings can help HSPs better understand themselves and their needs, leading to better emotional regulation.

2. Never Entertain Shame

Shame is a powerful emotion that can hinder emotional regulation in HSPs. Shame can cause individuals to feel inadequate, unworthy, and helpless. It can also lead to self-blame and self-criticism. HSPs should never entertain shame as it can lead to negative self-talk and self-esteem.

Instead, HSPs should practice self-compassion and self-love. They should remind themselves that they are doing the best they can and that it is okay to make mistakes. They should also seek support from trusted friends or a therapist who can help them work through feelings of shame.

3. Believe in Coping

Coping mechanisms are essential tools for emotional regulation. HSPs should believe in their coping mechanisms and use them whenever necessary. Coping mechanisms can include anything from deep breathing exercises, mindfulness, and journaling, to exercise.

HSPs should experiment with coping mechanisms and find what works best for them. They should also remember that coping mechanisms are not a one-size-fits-all solution and that what works for one person may not work for another.

4. Do Not Encourage Making Bad Feelings Last

HSPs can sometimes get caught up in their negative emotions, leading to a cycle of rumination and self-doubt. It is essential to recognize that it is okay to feel bad sometimes, but it is not healthy to dwell on negative emotions.

HSPs should practice letting go of bad feelings and not encourage them to last longer than necessary. They can do this by using coping mechanisms, distracting themselves with joyous activities, or seeking support from friends or a therapist.

5. Look For Hope

Finally, HSPs should always look for hope. They should focus on the positive aspects of their lives and find joy in small moments. They should surround themselves with positive people and engage in activities that bring them joy and happiness. Looking for hope can help HSPs regulate their emotions by shifting their focus away from negative thoughts and feelings. It can also help them to develop a more positive outlook on life.


Emotional regulation is essential for HSPs to manage their emotions effectively. It can help them avoid emotional distress and physical symptoms and improve their overall well-being. By accepting their feelings, avoiding shame, believing in coping mechanisms, not encouraging bad feelings to last, and looking for hope, HSPs can better regulate their emotions and live a more fulfilling life.

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